The Coaching Relationship: What You Need To Know
Thinking about working with a coach? That’s a powerful step. But before you dive in, it’s worth pausing to consider how to approach this relationship with clarity and intention.
Coaching is, at its heart, a relationship. And just like any meaningful relationship, the more you understand what you want from it, the more likely you are to find the right fit. Not every coach is the same—and not every client is seeking the same kind of support.
Let’s explore what to consider as you decide whether coaching is right for you, and how to choose the right coach if and when the time comes.
When to Start Coaching
Start by asking yourself: Why am I drawn to coaching right now?
If you’re looking for someone to give you step-by-step instructions or manage your life, coaching may not be the best fit. If you’re seeking knowledge or skills in a specific area, a course or training might be a better starting point. And if you’re navigating trauma or deeper emotional challenges, therapy is a more appropriate and supportive space.
But if you want to shift your mindset, clarify your direction, lead more effectively, navigate a life or career transition, or receive personalized support to grow into your next chapter—coaching can be incredibly impactful.
Know What You’re Looking For
Before you start reaching out to coaches, take a moment to clarify your intention. What do you want to focus on? Are you exploring career growth, team development, confidence, clarity, balance, or something else?
Not all coaches work the same way. Some emphasize mindset, some focus on action and achievement, and others offer a blend. (Personally, I offer a strengths-based approach that’s both reflective and action-oriented.) The more clearly you know what you want, the easier it becomes to find a coach who aligns with your needs and values.
Find the Right Fit
Choosing a coach isn’t just about qualifications—it’s about chemistry and trust. Look for someone whose approach resonates with you. Many coaches offer free discovery calls. Use that time to ask questions, feel out the connection, and listen to your gut. This person should feel like a partner—someone who sees your potential and can hold space for both your growth and your truth.
Make Sure You’re Ready
Coaching is an investment—in time, energy, and self-leadership. It helps to prepare not just logistically, but emotionally. Let those around you know what kind of support you may need. Set aside time to reflect between sessions. And be ready to show up fully—even when it’s uncomfortable. That’s where real change begins.
Be Open to Growth
As you move through the coaching process, you may uncover new goals or unexpected insights. That’s part of the journey. A skilled coach won’t force you into a rigid structure—they’ll walk with you as things evolve, helping you stay grounded and aligned as you move forward.
Stay Present (Even When It’s Uncomfortable)
A good coach won’t just cheer you on. They’ll challenge you, gently call out patterns that no longer serve you, and hold you accountable to the version of yourself you want to become. It might feel uncomfortable at times—but that’s often a sign you’re growing. Stay with it.
Know When It’s Time to Close
Coaching isn’t meant to last forever. A healthy coaching relationship has a clear beginning, a purpose, and an end. When you’ve reached your goals or feel complete, it’s okay to pause or part ways. In fact, that closure can be a powerful moment of celebration. And you can always return when new goals emerge.
Ready to Take the First Step?
If you’re drawn to a strengths-based coaching approach that blends clarity, confidence, and authentic growth—I’d love to connect.
You can book a free 30-minute strategy session here. This isn’t a sales call—it’s a chance to explore what you want, ask questions, and see if this work feels right for you. No pressure. Just presence.
You don’t have to figure it all out alone. Let’s find your next step, together.
